1. Secure Attachment If you have a secure attachment style, you may have grown up in a household where love felt safe and consistent. Where your feelings were heard, your needs mattered, and you didn’t have to perform to be loved. You learned: “It’s okay to depend on others. I am worthy of love.” You communicate openly, repair after conflict, and love feels peaceful not like a test. 2. Anxious Attachment If you have an anxious attachment style, you may have grown up in a home where love felt unp

This is what secure attachment creates: a nervous system that can actually receive support without resistance, guilt, or the need to earn it. But for many mothers, receiving care doesn't land as relief. It lands as threat. Not because they don't want support, but because their nervous system learned early that needing care meant they were a burden. When your attachment system formed around emotionally immature parents, rest wasn't a right, it was something you earned. Being taken care of wasn't